THE WHOLE OF ME!

(Whatever I am writing today, I am not afraid of anyone. Whatever I am pouring out straight comes from my heart! If you don’t like it, not my problem. If you like it, congrats you are a human!)

Now that is a pretty sensitive topic I am about to start for those who are in their worst situations.
“Why do I write such posts? It’s because, I am experiencing so many situations every day! Sometimes my day is a nightmare. “I want to run away!” this is what comes to my mind every day.

“Take stress and you kill yourself.” Says my mind.

“You are overreacting!” is what my friends say if I share something.

“Start crying, right now!” is what my self-conscious says.

“You will rock someday. Don’t give up!” my well wishers say.

“Selfish, Arrogant, and Egoistic!” the judgementals say. (They have no idea how I am from the inside. Never mind.)

“What the fuck is happening every day?” my heart asks to my body.

I am numb. I am silent. I have no answers to any question. I am in a mess.

I am very much active on Facebook and Instagram, I don’t deny it. I like to write for people, I like to click people.”

This a short story of my life. So basically, until now many of you must have related this to yourself. Don’t worry, it’s alright! I understand you. You know how hard life is? When people say, “You lucky girl, you get to travel always!”

In my mind, I am like, “Alright, I think you have no idea what things I had to do before setting this trip! So yes! Never call anyone lucky.”

I am done with people, honestly. Let me tell you a secret. The more you get close to people, more problems start to grow! Later your mind goes haywire. Your mind is bewildered with so many things at a time that you go numb. (Yes I understand you.)

We are in such age right now, that we can’t accept the fact of being single. Infact, many people are mocked up from the inside, but they show themselves as good natured people. Stay away from such people!

Be firm on your opinions:

‘The more people you ask for opinions, the more your mind goes dumb.”

Another one which is my personal favourite, here it goes:

“Too many cooks spoil the broth.”

(I personally don’t wish anyone to suffer any negative things.)

First of all, try to say a firm ‘NO’ if you find someone, some question, anything inappropriate. Believe me, there is no harm in saying no in proper situations.

Second is, whatever decisions you have to make. Be it any damn thing. Don’t go sharing it to 7-8 people. I think it is more important to understand which decision YOU will prefer, because it is YOUR life. In the end you will end up confused. Instead, why not listen to yourself?

LIKES ON SOCIAL MEDIA DOESN’T MEAN ANYTHING:

“Yeah right, post some random shit and you get 400 likes man!” They say.

“So? What? I see you had a very productive day in stalking my profile.” Is what I say to them (in my mind of course, or else they’ll again call me rude. But that’s the truth. Why the fuck likes matter?)

THE MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL: THE ‘JUDGE’ ‘MENTAL’ FELLOWS:

These are the people we come across literally every day. (Basically, these are the ones with no life of their own!)

I will be frank to you all, because each and every one of us has faced such tags from people. Those people could be our best friends, room partners, college buddies, anyone. So you can relate these words to yourself.

“Arrogant, Egoistic, Selfish, Not Trustworthy at all, back stabber, show off, you over reacting fellow, gossip girl/boy, annoying, pervert, possessive, Pessimistic, and on and on.)That’s what they call. In fact, they only know half of the story. These are the people who believe on one sided opinions. Stay away from these people. And let’s face it, many of us have been through this. Many of us have been insulted for no damn reason. Don’t be a pessimist even if they call you that. We should love ourselves no matter what happens in life. For me, life became simple when I started loving myself. In short words, DON’T GIVE A SINGLE FUCK! J

And how can I forget over smart people?

I have heard taunts from people for the blog posts I write, my YouTube channel, my way of speaking, my way of writing, my way of editing photos, my way of dressing. Well the list will go on, and I am not ashamed to say this. Because people have done this to me. And they still do, they can never stop. These are the ones whom we call, ‘People who call themselves superior than others’. I used to get hurt, and crying and weeping and sobbing and craving for a good friendship. But you know what; I am done with such people. Even if you are alone, I think you stay away from bull shit, you maintain distance from others, and you get to live in peace. You become independent.

Live happily and satisfied. Don’t rush into anything. And this is real world, PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU ALWAYS NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, SO INSTEAD OF MAKING IT A BIG DEAL, IGNORE THEM AND LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. IF YOU DON’T, YOU CANNOT BE SUCCESSFUL EVER! I love people who inspire me, who appreciate what I do every day, who appreciate for the person I am. That is all of me! I thank them all for not giving up on me.

NOW GO AND FIND YOURSELF! I AM SURE YOU WILL J

First of all a big hello from me to you all!

I hope you like all my blog posts and now vlogs too! After my last blog post about how to handle everything in your life, it’s time I will suggest some things essential when you are in a relationship. Not only a love like relationship, but that relation when you are best friends with someone or a sibling relationship. That’s what I am talking about!

Here I go then… I hope what I write helps you in your daily life!

Basically, let me clear you all one thing; I don’t fear anyone, whatever I feel I write. So take it as an advice by me, I am just like you all.

When we say that a person is close to us, it doesn’t mean that, that person is all yours, okay? It’s just in movies where they show us that best friendship is only two people spending time with each other all the time! Man, this can’t happen by any chance can it? No, damn no!

This is real life, not reel life. Come out of the fantasy world. There is this important thing in every person’s life called ‘Personal Space’. If you think your friend, or boyfriend/girlfriend is ignoring you when other people come into their life for some time being, then get out of the box and think, it doesn’t make a difference in their life about that special feeling about you they must be having. People need space in their life. Even you can’t live without space in your life. Never be possessive about anyone. People can do fine without you.

Just give them the amount of space they need from you, and your problems will be definitely solved. If you have seen FRIENDS sit com, Rachel once says this to Ross, “It’s okay Ross, that you are not in that part of my life. You don’t need to be with me in everything. It’s my space and I’d like to keep that part to myself.” So you see? Any relationship can definitely work if you give space to each other J

And by the way, especially about relationships I’d like to say that if there is one sided love, then stop putting statuses and profile photos to express your feelings for that person. It will never help you, in fact your impression will be “what an immature person” to them. So keep your feelings to yourself or share them with your close friends, don’t start telling your feelings to everyone. No one needs to know it, it’s your story not theirs. Secondly, if the person isn’t responding, then stop trying and simply try moving on. As I said earlier this is not reel life, this isn’t a fairy tale movie! Whatever is meant to happen in your life, it will happen no matter what. So just be patient and grow up! J Start writing a diary or blog posts like I do or write poems. Involve yourself in other activities and keep yourself busy. I am sure you will be a better person and you will feel fine after you are over this phase of infatuation. And never take stress if the person doesn’t feel the same way about you. Remember, your time is yet to come! Just like the phrase, ‘Every dog has its day!” Hahaha!

Be happy and satisfied. You don’t need anyone to complete yourself. Just try focussing on work and I am fully sure you will be fine and most importantly, you will be proud of yourself and you will gain the confidence in yourself. And depression? Lol, why depression? Due to this one sided love? Are you kidding me? Do what you love to do. What is your hobby? Indulge yourself into that, never be depressed. Do yoga or exercises every morning. It definitely helps keeping your mind fresh and clean. Take a small vacation, go to some place on weekends (I will recommend a place related to nature’s vicinity) and for those who love trekking and camping, don’t wait just go ahead. You will be fresh after a holiday. Believe me it helps when you want to get over someone. It’s hard to give time to yourself these days in such busy schedules, but still instead of hanging out with others, I will say; spend some time with yourself. Remember, YOU NEED YOURSELF ALWAYS!

That’s all! I hope what I said helps you. If you need to talk to me you have my email: sanikadevdikar11@gmail.com.
Don’t hesitate ever to share such things with me. Thank you!

Mumbai Diaries J

About me this time…

Well, hello everyone again! I am Mumbai Diaries as in Sanika. Some months ago I wrote a blog post about “How not to leave any person alone if they are facing a difficult situation and to help them get over it.” Well, after that post I received some mails and yes many of my closed ones came to me after that for suggestions, whew again not bragging about myself; it seems you all liked my write up as many of you have faced that situation in your lives at some point or you people are facing it right now. There was this interview of a British female journalist, I was watching on youtube a month ago and she said, “Whatever you feel inside, it could be pain, anger, sorrow, happiness, or depression. Before dropping on any conclusions about how other people are happy and how you are unhappy, just take a moment to think that there are some things in life which you have and others can’t have, likewise; some things are not in your favor. You just have to accept them and be satisfied with what you are gifted with.”

I have this really good friend of mine who literally comes to me when they have a problem (respecting his/her name and gender identity). Now I told that person, just to have a moment alone and instead of complaining about everything, why not enjoy in what you have? Why waste precious moments of life in what others think of you?

Fellows, when I made my mind positive, all things around me changed drastically. It was like, some days ago I was a depressed woman, but now I am so happy. I go alone to have a walk in the streets of CST and believe me, I see people, I click them, and well you know why? It’s because it makes me realize what all things and qualities I have which they can never ever dream of in this life. In the middle of all this, I got connected to some internet friends from my same field. Two I’d specially like to mention are from Sweden, Daniel Odisho (They guy who loves India like anything!) and other one is Sean Lewthwaite from Stockholm. We are from same field, and third one is from Mumbai; his name is Ashutosh Joshi. There is always a time when some people in just short amount of time can teach you so many things. Some become memories; some people are our inspirations and motivations. Difference between mentalities of a person is that some people never try to solve their situations and some are those who choose to stay positive and happy in any damn situation, being down to earth and offering help always! Well I get this a lot that I am an emotional support to many people, but sometimes I need a support too! Such people inspire me a lot in life. Well these are the ones who inspire me to be a positive person. I thank them. Thanks alot guys!

Sincerely,

Mumbai Diaries. (Sanika)

 CHENNAI CALLING! 

Now there I can hear birds chirping! A beautiful city in South India, as we all know- Madras/ Chennai, is much known to all of us for its beautiful Marina Beach, the people, culture and food! I still remember my visit to Chennai four years back, walking across leafy lanes in the city, yellow rickshaws and very friendly people. Chennai is a very pleasant city with a beautiful atmosphere. Today, I have brought you all to have an overlook at some photographs by my friend. A very interesting person I’d like to introduce you all today.

                     

Merlin Selvan.

It was just another day, when I opened my Facebook account, I saw that my friend had ‘liked’ a photo of a bird and I liked it very much. Out of curiosity, I checked out the page of this guy; it read ‘Merlin PGS Photography’. Usually I am not much fond of wildlife photography, but this guy’s compositions seemed different and very interesting.

As he lives in Chennai, I couldn’t meet him for this Q and A, so we did it over emailsJ :

1.)  Let’s start with the basics. Where are you from?

M: Born in Pudukudi, a small village near Trichy, Tamilnadu. I have settled in Kodaikanal, Tamilnadu.

2.)  Your education till now?

M: B.sc., Visual Communication in SRM Arts & Science College & Diploma in

Photography in Bridge Academy of media studies.

3.)  Which was your first camera and do you still have it?

M:  My first camera is Canon EOS 7D, which I own now.                                         

4.)  When did you realize that you are passionate about wildlife photography?

M: During my college days. I had to submit photography record for practical exams. I bought a camera since my photography sir suggested it. Just started clicking for college and found my soul in it.

5.)  These days a lot of people buy pricey cameras, and jeopardize ‘real’ professional and passionate photographers. What are your thoughts about that?

M: I don’t think that way. You know we call them professional because that stand out from others. Yes, costly cameras and lenses give you professional results but the eye behind the camera must be professional to get professional name in society.

6.)  Do you see this (wildlife photography) as a career in future?

M: No. In fact, there are no mere chances to make money through wildlife photography. You need to own high end cameras & lenses and you should have 100% luck for earning through it. It is more full-filling to keep it as a hobby and passion rather than as profession, in my view.

7.) How will you describe yourself by nature with other people?

M:  Hmmm. I am just a normal guy with lots of passion towards photography & even more love for nature and wildlife. Nothing more is there to describe about me.

8.) How do you recollect all the names of birds and animals which you capture?

M:  It’s very simple. When you are passionate about something, you involve 100% in it and therefore you try to have maximum knowledge about it. In fact, I’m not that much knowledgeable in identifying all birds I photograph. It’s my brother (wildlife conservationist) behind me, who helps me a lot in identifying.

9.) What is your favourite genre of books?

M: To be frank, I never used to read book. I have read a few books and one of them is indeed Pictorial Guide for birds of Indian Subcontinent.

10.) Who is your role model and why?

M: There are many people I take as my role mode and inspiration. I will mention a few:
1. First of all, it’s my Dad - P. Gnana Selvan & my brother- G.Melvin Selvan. Both of them are wildlife lovers & conservationists. Without them, I wouldn’t have been even being aware of wildlife photography. They are my greatest inspiration.

2. Kiran Poonacha (Bird photographer)

3. Saravanan Sundaram (Wildlife photographer)

And many are there. I see inspiration in all wonderful photographs.

11.) Any advice to the aspirant photographers of India?

M: Just follow what your heart says. No need of photography classes. Try & experiment everything you come across photography. You will get tons of discouragements and negative reviews. Take them sportingly and believe in yourself. Your passion will take you where you deserve to be.

Some captures by Mr. Merlin, I'd like to show you all:

Writer’s note:

Merlin is a very passionate and dedicated wildlife photographer. He can be an inspiration to many young and upcoming photographers. Such perfect dedication towards photography is less seen in today’s world, as we see people creating photography pages and they upload any pictures with their watermarks. Merlin, I wish you all the best wishes and keep going on the path of success and keep us surprising with your beautiful clicks! J I am so glad I have you as my friend. Go like his page:

 https://www.facebook.com/MerlinPgsPhotography

THANK YOU ! Stay Tuned.

Love,

Mumbai Diaries.

WHAT DO WE KNOW? WHAT HAVE WE LEARNT?

I want to share my travel experience with you all. I just want to convey you all what I learnt from this tour. Well, all my friends were off to different places in India for holidays. And I wanted to go to Rajasthan, but I couldn’t go because of some personal reasons. I was totally disappointed because I couldn’t make it to Rajasthan!
Never mind, my mom said we were off to my native Dhulia city which comes into Khandesh. And as we all know Maharashtra is divided into different categories for example: Vidarbha (Nagpur and others), Khandesh (Dhulia, Jalgaon, etc), Marathwada (Osmanabad, Beed, etc) and ours is Southern Maharashtra (Mumbai, Pune, etc).

P.S. This was for people who don’t know this :P

And I had no idea what I was going to experience there. Well guys we Mumbaikars have no idea that, what a beautiful life we all have here in Mumbai, with our parents, relatives and places to hangout. When I went there, I realized that the problems we face here are totally worthless, spending time in totally useless things, which aren’t going to matter in future for us, we over think and we react. But we should have to open our eyes and look at the surrounding.. I mean what problems people face in such places, I was completely stunned. We demand for something, our parents give it without any hesitation, and there just for a small toy a child has to cry and his parents can do nothing for him except consoling him. Scarcity of water, less power supply, lack of education these are major problems in Maharashtra. As my grandma is the vice president of two schools there, one of them is a girls's school. She told me, they face many problems there. Parents there still hesitate to send their daughters for education, political problems... Guys, it’s a request to you all, if you have any kind of problem then please don’t make a big deal about it! We live in heaven frankly speaking; we all literally have no idea that what kinds of problems these people face every day. So if you have any problem try to act upon it and solve it, don’t mess yourself up. If you really feel that you are in the worst phase of your life then think of these people and feel blessed to have a beautiful life and future in front of you! I learnt from these village people that if they are still trying to be happy in spite of all such problems they have, why can’t we stay happy? Definitely we all can. :D

YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOURSELF AND DEFINITELY OTHERS AROUND YOU CHANGE FOR SURE!

God bless you all! 

Do write to me at my email at sanikadevdikar11@gmail.com.

(I got suggestions from previous letters, and thank you for the response)

LET US BE STRESS FREE! WHAT SAY?

“Some people think it’s holding that makes one strong – 

sometimes it’s letting go.” 

1.) There is not a single problem with your body or yourself, the problem is your mind ! Thinking about such things which are not even meaningful! Why do you do this? Ask your mind once. Do what you like always. Have time for yourself, if you have a busy schedule take out time from it and do your hobbies! I am absolutely sure you all will survive through this, the reason why my blogs are about mental conditions of people is I want people to be happy and not thinking about silly things. Don't ever mess up your mind, be such a person always that, when others come around you, they will love your company and will love to be with you. 

2.) Choosing your friends is the most important factor in your life, don't open up to everyone. Not everyone needs to know about your life. Be open to few! And stay with those who make you feel positive, tiffs are common among friends but this is the phase in our lives when we have to act maturely in certain situations. BE MATURE if your friends act weird in certain situations. (Well you know how to handle them better when they get fussy). And one more thing is not everyone wants to be with you, some are just interested to listen to your story and not to help so be INDEPENDENT so you won't ever get hurt, that's my promise!

3.)  “When I argue with reality, I lose, but only 100 percent of the time.”

This is the perfect quote to lead us into the most harmful stressor of them all: resisting what is in the present moment.

Many of us are so accustomed to fighting the external environment of the moment that we don’t even realize that it’s optional to do so. Or even that it’s completely useless.

It is this resistance of what is that leads to most, or even all, of the unnecessary suffering that we’re so accustomed to experiencing.

I used to be a great resistor of my life situation. I thought that resisting and fighting it would eventually lead me to happiness, but it didn’t. The resistance only fed itself and led me deeper into more resistance, and thus more suffering.

It’s not until I began becoming friends with the present moment that I began to experience peace.

MAKE YOUR LIFE WORTH LIVING! AND BE HAPPY ALWAYS! 

 Sarah Jessica Parker thanks to you for inspiring me to write such things. And a big thank you to those people who wrote to me and I am glad if I made you happy with my suggestions.

I will always try to make it up to you people to be stress free and being happy and satisfied in your life! Thanks for listening. Stay tuned. And feel free to write to me always.

Lovingly,

MUMBAI DIARIES! (SANICA) xx

I tried hard not to cry, there was a big lump in my throat. Two months later this is when I realized that was this the moment what I was waiting for? I felt so alone among those 30 girls. Those were the ones came from different parts of suburbs, some of them with which i had studied for a year.I am socially awkward and I never have lots of friends. You will never find me sitting with a bunch of girls, yeah the photos you see are the meetings when I rarely go out with my friends. I felt like my head was going to burst. Beautiful campus, beautiful classroom, perfect faculties but yet it was such a weird feeling that I am totally alone among all those girls.And that's when it started, no one noticed how I felt. Well, quiet people always go unnoticed.I was never good in studies and that is when one of my closest friend after my good result taunted me so well, "You got much good grades than you expected". This is when I was near to tears in my eyes. The second taunt I got from the same girl was," You should have punctual responsibility". And as I said, I couldn't say anything but just listened to the insult she did every time. Because somewhere I knew, making fun of her wasn't going to help me building myself. Two months when I came home, I started cribbing everyday, "WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?" and thus I started to remain absent for the classes, turning into a big mental depression. That huge turmoil made a big impact on my life. But I had to face it, for the next four years I had to face it. I had already lost in love, I had lost in studies and now in terms of friendship it turned to worst. It takes too much time just to show that you don't care when you actually do care a lot. I was just left alone and I was speechless, I barely spoke to anyone and I had gave up on my life.

After a month, I decided not to crib anymore, being strong was the only choice god had left for me, maybe he wanted to see how I struggle through such situations. God taught me not to run away from any situations, My best friend had became careless about me, the person I loved the most left me, and my work also was turning worst. That time, two main factors that affected me positively were God and my family. And that's when I decided not to give shit about them and enjoy the company of yourself. You are your own friend when people leave you. People like it when they see you failing, people like to judge you when you are free, you want to be open,. People are never satisfied with what you are. Well maybe I can't express to you all that how I am feeling about this but maybe this all happened to all of you also. I am not saying I am perfect, I am telling you that if you have a friend who doesn't have good grades, it is also your responsibility to help them rather than humiliating them, and leaving them. This is the phase when they need your support, be that support.

Guys, you should be a support to your friends and not a tension! They shouldn't feel tensed when they are in your company. God is testing us. We should win the battle.

(Do write to me about your incidences at sanikadevdikar11@gmail.com.)